say my name

say my name - The Best Advice So Far - graffiti big mouth on brick wall

When’s the last time you had a real honest-to-goodness “aha!” moment? For me, it was quite recently. It was so simple that I wondered how I’d missed it up until now. And yet it was so profound that I actually felt the perspective shift happen and knew at once that it would change things moving forward.

I don’t know if you’ll find it as revelatory as I did or not. I suspect some of you will. For others, perhaps, it will serve as a timely reminder of something you’ve merely forgotten for too long.

If you’ve read my book, The Best Advice So Far, or if you’ve been reading along on this blog for any length of time, you know that I devote a good deal of focus to the importance of using people’s names often, whether it be with the cashier at the convenience store, with the other patrons working out around you at the gym – or even with sketchy neighbors. Most of my stories of cool personal interactions with strangers begin with our having exchanged names. I mentioned in one post that I make a point to ask homeless people their names (just as I would with anyone else), and recounted having met one woman who hadn’t heard her own name spoken in so long, she’d actually forgotten what it was.

Anyone who’s been out with me to a restaurant or movie theater – or really anywhere – knows that I’m not just spouting ideals here. I really do practice what I preach with regard to asking and using people’s names. (And for some reason I can’t quite figure out, many people find this odd, amusing – even almost mystical.)

In short, the importance of asking and using people’s names is not a new revelation or practice for me. Nor is it a surprise that cool things often come of such a simple practice.

No, the recent realization that I did have was …

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8 responses to “say my name

  • Sue Vincent

    I agree… even saying my own name feels odd and I very seldom actually hear it. I love the nicknames given by those who love me, and ‘Mum’ will always be special… though I’m now waiting to hear ‘Grandma’ for the first time. But my name? Very rare I hear it.
    I do like to use people’s names myself, both face to face and when writing and you’re right… many people seem to find that strange, particularly in person.
    I should just mention though, that half the text on the new site is running off the page and thus unreadable, Erik. I had to ‘fill in the gaps’ as I read and can only comment here as the ‘post’ button is also invisible.


    • Erik

      Hi, Sue! First, congratulations on becoming a grandma! Happy news!

      Thanks for the comment – and the alert! That’s odd. Could you tell me which device and browser you are using? I thought the site had been tested on every device by now and most browsers. The only browser that seems to be having trouble is (not surprisingly) Microsoft’s new browser called “Edge” that they just switched to with Windows 10 (abandoning Internet Explorer forever, apparently, having made yet another browser that … doesn’t work).

      Where did the post leave off, if you don’t mind my asking? I’ll send you the rest via email, until I figure the rest out!


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